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I joined Tinder in November 2014 and was on and off it since then. I had about 60 matches and about 15 made it to the next level - Whatsapp chatting.
I try to only chat to 2 or maximum 3 guys at a time. (It can be very time consuming). I went on 8 tinder dates and only 1 has made it past the second date – I am currently seeing him.
I am a very independent woman that knows that marriage and children are not for me. I am looking for a companion.
Most of the guys were trying to suss out if I was able to cook, if I was good with children and would make a good, dutiful wife.
One guy told me the man’s job is to pay and the women’s is to be in the kitchen. On that date I ordered the most expensive meal, drank a lot and made him pay then never spoke him again.
Before even meeting me, 2 guys ask me when last did I have sex – I thought that was uncalled for.
My overall experience has not been bad, maybe because I don’t entertain nonsense.
My friend on the other hand, had a guy ask her while on their date if she would like to sleep with him, if not, he has another date lined up. She also had a guy send her a picture of his junk and he expected a positive response from that.
The problem with Tinder is that it creates an illusion that you have several options.
You know that if this date doesn’t work, then you can login and find someone else. With all these options I don’t believe that people on Tinder take meeting someone seriously and put as much effort as they would have if all these options were not available.
The Tinder app uses words that would imply this is a game and people treat it as such.
This was written in response to the column Dating: who pays?
