- This long weekend, South Africans will be celebrating their cultures and hosting braais.
- Others might find out that their long-term partners will be marrying someone else.
- This behaviour has been going on for years, and we suspect this year will be no different.
Heritage Day weekend is a big weekend in our country, where all South Africans are encouraged to celebrate the cultural wealth within our beautiful rainbow nation. However, for relationships, this weekend seems to have everyone shaking in their boots, honey. Apart from hosting a braai and going home for a visit, some citizens will tie the knot. So, that means when you see a post of your partner wearing matching traditional attire with his "cousin".
He might be the groom, and the wedding he said was his friend's is actually his. Oh, and that "cousin" might be his bride, you know, the 'umama wase ndlini' (the main girlfriend/wife). So, basically, you can call this weekend 'the finding out weekend'.
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Although this may sound like a Lifetime movie plot and a joke passed around social media, it is, however, a reality that most people in relationships have had to live with after they found out that the person they've been in a relationship with for years has become someone's husband in a weekend. The conversation surrounding this issue gained traction in 2021 when Kaya FM presenter Thabo T-Bose Mokwele shared a tweet asking his followers how they found out their partner was getting married using the hashtag #MyPersonGotMarriedKaWeekend.
#MyPersonGotMarriedKaWeekend How did you find out? Do you want an explanation? pic.twitter.com/mS6H3KIbpx
— T. (@tboseZA) September 28, 2021
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Users of the platform jumped on the comment section to share their 'Find Out' stories, with one saying, "My boyfriend went to Limpopo, Bochum, and the next morning (Saturday), when I tried reaching out to him, he was not picking up my calls. That was the day he was paying lobola or having a traditional ceremony for this other lady. His cousins notified me."
All the stories surrounding this conversation seem to have one thing in common, and that is Limpopo. Of course, because our nation's coping mechanism is humour, even in serious situations, people didn't miss the opportunity to share a couple of jokes about the conversation online.
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Here are some of our favourites:
Dating life insurance.
We need mjolo insurance serious awo bathong pic.twitter.com/uzS7Uz0e6U
— ??DuduMthimkulu (@masheya_mahle) September 28, 2021
Arranged stokvel marriage.
— Khiba_925 (@Khiba925) September 28, 2021
Find better ways to hide your secret.
What I am picking up from this stories is that do not allow people to take pictures on ur wedding #MyPersonGotMarriedKaWeekend pic.twitter.com/qSpT5ghVL7
— Bongiwe (@InfluencerWanna) September 28, 2021
He's not that proud of his tribe.
He wasn't wearing traditional outfit for Heritage day, he was getting married ????????#MyPersonGotMarriedKaWeekend pic.twitter.com/NhKCBifqCn
— C H A B E D I (@IamChabza) September 28, 2021
He's yet to marry you, and he's just following the order.
#MyPersonGotMarriedKaWeekend some people just assume that if he married the other woman it's over between them, No, he's just started my sister you are next so just be patient. pic.twitter.com/Ncmoj9UtSU
— Soulful Dee (@SoulfulDee2) September 28, 2021
Sources: Twitter