Good guys really do finish last...every time

In the world we live in today, finding a man that has all the attributes of a kind, loving gentleman, caring, a father figure, supportive and willing to change for their partner and relationship, would that not be worth keeping?

I find it hard then to believe that yet again I find myself alone and without a clue as to what I am doing wrong in my relationships. Where does a male who has all of the above attributes seek advice moving forward or are us males just totally out of luck when it comes to finding a partner that will commit to us. I do think that there are a few of us out there, the so called nice guys who always finish last, we are around and its time that ladies start telling us what they want from us and how we can further improve to meet their every changing minds and strict criteria.

I grew up being taught that money and fame was the last thing women sort after and that being a gentleman was all that was required to attract the opposite sex, I believed this and applied myself at every meet and greet that included a member of the opposite sex. I can without a doubt confirm that not once was I give any phone numbers to call later.

I think the standards by which we live have dropped, I think it has become incredibly hard for men like myself to attract a female unless I have a sports car or a six pack, women just don’t seem to take notice of men who open doors anymore or smile and greet.

So the question I am asking is, what is commitment to women, is it a male that goes to work each day, comes home and cooks and helps with the kids and makes lunch in the morning for the family for work and school and helps around the house, the list really does go on, or are women just looking for men in sports cars?

What makes you ladies commit? And why are you ladies not looking for me like us?

Menzi Mnandi Phewa 2014-08-06 02:16:19 PM
shame dude....women love wolves.....they are bored by Mr Nice.
Wehr Wulf 2014-08-06 02:17:21 PM
When you've figured out the female gender, let the rest of us know.
Werner Keyser 2014-08-06 02:22:31 PM
138 views and only 1 comment? Come on. Are woman afraid to admit that its all about the money, or whatever it is, or maybe they don't really know what they want.
Rimmel Brimmel 2014-08-06 02:22:50 PM
My bad luck with women stopped when I stopped being overly nice to them. I didn't turn into a pig, I just started being myself 100%, and that changed everything. Being myself filtered the personality incompatabilities out, and 3 girls after I made the change to my atitude I met the girl of my dreams and now, 7 years later, we are happily married. BTW Smile and greet works wonders in my opinion as well :-)
Al Schaeffer 2014-08-06 02:23:53 PM
Generalizing here, but men have "created" this. Again, generalizing, but men have always pushed women more and more into becoming more sexual, more deviant, more outspoken, more experimental, more liberal, more..more...more..now we end up in the situation you have described and that we ourselves created. And now we are outperformed at our own game. Roles have changed. The game has changed. Its a new day, with new rules...sorry mate.
Kallie Karnallie 2014-08-06 02:29:15 PM
Nice guys never get the hot girls - fact. Case in point: Sean Penn.
Siebert Mazus 2014-08-06 02:29:30 PM
You ask: -So the question I am asking is, what is commitment to women, is it a male that goes to work each day, comes home and cooks and helps with the kids and makes lunch in the morning for the family for work and school and helps around the house, the list really does go on, or are women just looking for men in sports cars?- I'm not going to answer on behalf of women, but what I gathered from my wife was that she needed and still needs is a husband who can share her responsibilities. Cooking, raising kids, etc. She actually earns more money than I do. I have a vague idea of what she really, really wants. It's only vague. She wants some kind of romance, etc. etc. Foreplay, afterplay, etc. I want to enjoy myself and to get over and done with it. Then go to bed without having to cuddle and talk all night. The opposite of what she wants. Women are from Venus. Men are from Mars. But, our relaionship has been working for many years now. I must be doing something right!
Menzi Mnandi Phewa 2014-08-06 02:32:48 PM
You sound desperate to please women....I think you should try and be yourself .....
Leah 2014-08-06 02:34:24 PM
I am married to the good guy. I don't expect him to cook and clean, but I do expect him to make me tea or coffe :). He makes an awesome cuppa. He is not my slave, nor am I his. All I ask is that he is real. That is what woment want.
Tyrone Kleiner 2014-08-06 02:37:37 PM
Go get yourself a book called Natural Game by Richard LaRuina