Open Letter to Women

I sometimes wish women knew how divine, beautiful and worthy they are. A week ago while driving to work, I was listening to the Highveld team breakfast show. I stumbled upon a part where a lady calls in to be assisted to trace a guy she had been on a first date with and disappeared afterwards. So the story is this lady went on date with this guy and after the date, the guy went missing in action, this includes not calling the girl and not returning her calls and ignoring her sms. My first reaction to all this was does she really think the guy died after going on a date with her, God can’t be that cruel, and even if he died, which does not necessarily mean God is cruel; this would have really been the exception and not the rule. The truth is this guy is not that into this lady and clearly this lady is either an eternal optimist if she sees this otherwise or she is just too hungry for love.  In that moment I asked myself why is it that women repeatedly allow themselves to be treated like this. I therefore decide to write the 4 things a women should remember about life as a refresher course to remind ladies to remember their divinity and own their worth this women month.

About Relationships: The truth about life is that we have something divine called instinct and instinct always knows the truth and when we fail to listen to our instinct we end up thinking people we went on first dates with got kidnapped by aliens when in fact they are just not interested. If someone likes you, they will show you, if someone loves you they will show you and with their actions, instinct will also be sending you messages. Iyanla Vanzant in her book Until Today says we have both conscious and unconscious relationships with people we engage with; you can always tell what is happening even if there is no proof to substantiate. So with this said, women should learn not to pardon poor manners and make excuses for allowing themselves to be doormats in the name of love. Love inspires, protects, nurtures, respects and encourages anything short of this is a waste of your time. We should also remember that we teach people how to treat us, if you are going to hunt a guy who does not call you after a first date to persuade him on a second date, you are setting yourself up for an empty relationship. I also think it should be part of the female curriculum to ensure that all women watch the movie He is just not that into you latest by age 11.

About the women you are: Listen lady you are perfect just the way you are, stop defining beauty accordingly to magazines or the society. If you are not going to appreciate the beauty, perfection, divinity you are, you are in big trouble because no one is going to endorse you. Love yourself first and you will attract love into your life, appreciate yourself and you will attract both people and situations that appreciates you. You decide on your worth, promise to remember that you are priceless

About all the atrocities that steal a women’s peace: Yes there is crime, abuse, rape, there are hijackings, women are kidnapped, but we cannot allow this to make us live in fear. The thing about fear is that whatever you fear you attract, not saying that these things happen to people who attracted them, but saying let’s be positive regardless. The wonderful thing that I have also discovered is that God loves women so much, if we can all make it our business to pray against these things, but be mindful that the law of attraction does not recognize words like No and Not e.g. Instead of saying God let there be no rape, rather say God let there be Love, let there be Peace, let Kindness rule your people, their hearts and minds. If we can as a community of women pray faithfully like this, I know things will change

About women’s day concerts that will be happening: Nothing upsets me more that concerts that takes place on August, you will find artists who have not released albums since Jan Van Riebeeck landed at the Cape, coming to SA all in the name of serenading women. These artist, Keith Sweat for example, will come here, ladies will pay to attend his concert and when they get to the Dome, guess what, the artist will do 30% of the singing at the ladies who are supposedly celebrated will do the entire singing. This cannot be self love; you go to a concert to get the artist to sing for you, not the other way round. So ladies, beware of these little acts that diminishes your worth, rather get yourself another pair of shoes or invest in Satrix

You were born to laugh, to learn, to teach, yes at times you will make mistakes and be in a relationship that does not honour you, but let it be the first and the last one. May you always remember that there is a divine purpose to your creation; be beautiful. May life caress your beautiful face with countless reasons to laugh. Honour yourself, love yourself and be open to the joy that is within you and around you. Happy Women’s Month.

Nobby Poltice 2014-08-04 10:28:34 AM
God does not care.
Siebert Mazus 2014-08-04 10:50:06 AM
Lesego writes: -May you always remember that there is a divine purpose to your creation; be beautiful.- Actually, my wife tells me that some men are beautiful. She doesn't designate a purpose to that. She saw the avatar with this article and concluded that you're not one of the beautiful men. She thinks that you're just vain; someone who thinks that he is something but doesn't mean much.
truthbetold221 2014-08-04 11:12:35 AM
I hoped for absolute facts.
still faithless 2014-08-04 11:13:03 AM
The most complimentary piece of sheet I have ever seen. I too worship my woman, but in realty, not behind words like "Devine instinct" & "Devine purpose to your creation" What the hell do you think "If we can as a community of women pray faithfully like this, I know things will change" this will achieve? Like I said, complimentary claptrap. Real women are not fooled by this... Two things I agree with: Satrix Happy women's month!!!
Anneke Von Maltitz 2014-08-04 12:32:42 PM
This is just beautiful! Thank you young man. I will show this to my daughter. From an old Tannie.
Kimberly 2014-08-04 05:47:07 PM
Generalizing now but to say 'your women' gives that connotation of ownership. 'My wife' is more liberal, for lack of a better description. 'My wife' indicates more of a partnership. Oh and I assumed nothing. I could however have brought my opinion over in a different manner but the basis of yours, mine and ours is what I was referring too. I am not someone to say you are wrong, hence the 'just a thought' part of my comment. :)
Kimberly 2014-08-04 05:50:28 PM
Not for one second... I'm not even remotely concerned by that. My reply was bordering on sarcasm... You assume waaay too much
truthbetold221 2014-08-04 05:55:45 PM
@Kimberly, what sort of logic is that? My wife is my woman as I am her man. By the way, calling her that makes her feel special as it does make me. I'm sure your knowledge of relationships is derived solely from television/movies. You see, when you have a woman or a man, you learn to know them and by knowing them doesn't mean you know the next woman you will meet. Some say, you can never understand women, they are absolutely right, you can only understand a woman, your woman.
Kimberly 2014-08-04 09:57:09 PM
Geezus! You know this is an open forum right? Okay @truthbetold - I see where you're coming from as well. Point taken. There is no need to critique the way I think or my opinion on how I refer to 'my man' or 'my boyfriend' - stop assuming that you know why I choose to refer to my boyfriend as that and not as 'my man' - oh and I wouldn't try understanding women. Women understand women and we generally don't like each other
Xolani Derrick Zulu 2014-08-06 02:32:20 PM
Wooow!I like dis man,"let there be love,let there be peace nd kindness"so our women shall live without fear