What is Love (Christians don't hurt me, no more) ?

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” - John 13:34-35 (NIV)

Christians it would seem, according to their God’s commands, are to be the epitome of love, kindness, compassion.

Followers of Christ are to set the gold standard for loving the unlovable. They are to follow the way of their God and be compassionate, kind, humble, and tolerant. They are not to retaliate, but do to do good to those who harm them. (I won’t bulk this up by referencing the actual scriptures, as I am sure all the Christians know them as well as their own name due to reading their bible.)

Jesus their Lord, (and by extension his humble servants) embraced and spent time the worst sinners according the Bible. Ate, and drank with them. Didn’t avoid them or distanced himself from them lest their sin rub off on him.

He never hung out with the Pharisees though. He loathed the Pharisees, those who put the law above the intent of the law (rules above compassion and love). Those who were hypocrites, those who only did for their own people, and saw everyone else as beneath them and not deserving of their compassion, kindness or generosity.

So Jesus comes, and turns Judaism on its head and now his followers, those that are saved, are to be humble, compassionate and loving just like he was.

Their God even explains what love should look like in 1 Corinthians 13.

So naturally given this God’s call for his followers to follow his ways, I am sure Christians will be the epitome of love, tolerance, compassion and kindness.

They will hate the sin but love the sinner. Surely they would never, oh, I don’t know, pick and choose which sins are more abhorrent to God. Yes Christians are bursting full of love. (Otherwise let’s face it, the Bible says they would be a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.)

They are to love their neighbor. Now, it’s been a while since I read my bible but none of the versions quantified that with unless they are L.G.B.T, or another race, or another faith. Nope, just love them, as they love themselves. (Hmmmm... One wonders if Christians are self-loathing. Considering that this is a command from their God, and given how they treat the LGBT community and other races, they must not be very fond of themselves. Maybe they need a bit of Deepak Chopra or Oprah.)

Surely no Christian would be unkind, intolerant, mean, and abusive to a ‘Sinner’. Surely they wouldn't make them feel less than human, taunt them and call them un-natural or evil. Surely they would never make their lives so hard that many become depressed and so many suicidal.

Nope not a Christian. Their God tells them to love.

I wonder then what to make of people who, for example, refuse a room to a gay couple but have no problem renting to an adulterous couple.

Or those who refuse to bake a wedding cake for a LGBT couple but have no problem making one for a couple on their 2nd or 3 rd marriage. (Those bits in Matthew and Mark about divorce are less sinful than homosexual sex, OBVIOUSLY.)

I am sure Christians oppose liars and the cowardly - both sins in Rev 21:8 - and would also picket outside their homes. Stare at them when they are out with their families. Refuse to be treated by a liar in a hospital. (Lest his lies get on them, like cooties.)

I am sure Christian parents refuse to eat a meal with their kids who told a lie and have chucked them out of their homes.

Well, they’re to make sure they’re against sin right? I am sure they would be the first out their protesting against corrective rape. (Of course they would never be cowardly and say it’s wrong, but take no action.)

I am sure they are organizing political parties to ensure Liars are stripped of all their rights. That no person who told a lie is ever allowed to adopt a child.

Yeah you can really see Christians by their love. That’s how Jesus will know them when he stops pressing snooze on his alarm and comes back for them. He will see how compassionate they were to the LGBT community, how loving and inclusive they were to other races and how generous they were to the poor. They would never be like those people he threw out of the temple. No buying a t-shirt telling people how much you love Christ instead of donating that money to the poor. No sitting in church on a Sunday listening the 40th sermon about feeding the poor, then going out for brunch when they could be out helping the poor, visiting kids in prison, helping at an orphanage.

Nope Jesus will be so pleased when he returns, right Christians?

Elrike Du Plessis 2014-08-23 08:07:43 AM
In the perfect world, all Christains would be like Jesus - able to love every single person unconditionally. Unfortunately, most of us are still a work in progress and therefore not perfect. Far from it... Don't get me wrong, I am not making excuses for our behaviour or approving of the unloving treatment you have recieved from some Christians. We should all be striving towards a 1 Corinthians 12:24 love - patient, kind. A love that doesn't envy, boast, dishonor. A love that isn't self-seeking, easily angered and doesn't keep record of wrongs. A love that doesn't delight in evil, but always protects, trusts, hopes and perseveres. A love that never fails. However, Jesus came to seek and save the lost (not the holy, shiny and perfect). All Christians were once lost. And (as you have clearly seen) all of us still deserve to go to hell because of your sins (our unloving nature). It is by the grace of God that we are saved because of our faith; not by our actions or lack of them. I hope with my whole heart that you will not judge Christianity by the still struggling/work in progress Christians around you, but by the loving, kind, almighty, perfect God we serve. None of us are worthy, yet He loves EVERYBODY equally. When a person accepts Christ, they aren't magically turned into saints who never sin or do anything bad again. They are still sinners, the difference is they are washed clean by the blood of Jesus Christ. After that, God changes their heart and eventually their behaviour to become more Christ-like. I hope with all my heart that you meet some kind and loving Christians who have let God change their sinful, selfish, unaccepting, unloving nature into something completely different. I truly hope you are able to one day look past all the broken, still-getting-there Christians in the world and rather see the God they serve - a God that loved each and every person so much that He sent His only Son to die for us - not just so we don't have to burn in hell, but because He wanted to break down the barrier of sin and death in order to have a personal relationship with us. And I don't know if it will make a difference, but I am sorry.
MerryMartin 2014-08-23 08:30:14 AM
A good read, Daisy, thank you. 1 Corinthians 13.... It would be so awesome if everyone took the instructions in 1 Corinthians 13 to heart... The world could be such a beautiful place.
Alex Bax 2014-08-23 09:17:28 AM
We are living in the perfect world right now if you want less hate get rid of religion. The concept of loving everyone and everything was designed by Jesus to make him sound superior and us go nuts with guilt because the concept is humanly impossible. So you can decide to live by these impossible rules or liberate yourself and be free of guilt
Net Crunchie 2014-08-23 09:20:24 AM
What you forgot, when you have sinned, just go somewhere where every other religiot can see you and beg for forgiveness. That's the 'delete' button and you can do everything over again. Don't slip up cause the end could be near. Ask ole dumbwin above, after every moronic posting, he falls on his knees
Audrey Pearl Meyer 2014-08-23 10:53:51 AM
Pieter Grobler 2014-08-23 10:57:41 AM
Hello Daisy. Nice article. The sad thing is, hypocrisy is not limited to Christianity. It is prevalent in all human beings. The sadder thing is that as an atheist I have no god or holy book to hide behind...no absolution for my "sins" of swearing and losing my temper and (sometimes) thinking (if only briefly) of grabbing some ingrate by the throat and (gently) hold him until he stops squirming. I live in peace and harmony with all people (or try to at least) and I think I am a fairly moral person. I live my life by the motto "what goes around comes around in the end", and firmly believe we will all get what we deserve eventually...good or bad. The saddest thing is that the rabid followers of "peaceful" gods are the worst at living in peace with others! No, instead, they have to use violence to show you how peaceful and loving their gods are! The Muslims are still there...they are prepared to die in battle for their god of peace. The Christians have adopted a new (albeit ancient) method of warfare...separation. They simply exclude the unsavory elements from their "inner circles" citing fear of pollution and corruption (like we are mindless apples) and then claim moral high ground by saying "the bible said we should separate ourselves from sin". Until the love for god(s) are superseded by the love for fellow humans, this planet will remain a cesspool of violence, murder, war, rape and discrimination. Sadly, the vast majority of these acts are perpetrated by religious nuts.
Keita 2014-08-23 11:32:17 AM
Ah, that was so beautifully said, Daisy. I hope they take heed.
Thomas Freeman 2014-08-23 12:28:05 PM
One of the biggest reasons why I rejected Christianity was not just because of its illogical nature, but because, good and moral people who do not happen to believe in the Trinity God are to go to hell and suffer for eternity, which is unjust, immoral, and contradictory to the “belief” that Yahweh is “all-loving.” “Is Yahweh really an “all-loving God?”. The Bible proves that Yahweh is NOT love: "But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love." 1 John 4:8 "Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud "1Corinthians 13:4 Does God measure up to theses texts in his own Bible "You shall not worship them or serve them; for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children, on the third and the fourth generations of those who hate Me," Exodus 20:5
Mathew Clark 2014-08-23 01:00:35 PM
Hmmm - the ultimate lose-lose situational question for Christians. No human being is ever going to perfectly model any ethical ideal, but somehow it would seem less than human to strive for it. Tolerance of everything in other people that does not live up to the ideal does not always cut it, that way lies ISIS. I think the Christian system in its origins understood that achieving the ideal "Love God with everything in you, and your neighbour as yourself" is humanly impossible, and it was thus understood to be something that was achieved in your life for you by the Spirit of God, like fruit on a tree-branch or water welling from a spring. Highly inflexible legalistic models of Christian behaviour have dominated from time to time, and these can be hurtful for everyone they come into contact with, insisting as they do that we CAN all cut it and that those who don't are therefore worthy of punishment. Generally I must say that Christians I have met tend to feel bad when they do fall short of the ideal of love, which is at least a start... For certain, their unbelieving peers cut them no slack at all, making it intolerable for any Christian to interact with others or respond to any ethical debate because their every contribution is put under a microscope to see if it lives up to the ideal of "love." (Not sure why atheists would be bothered about hypocrisy, since the ethical norm of materialism is "What is, is right." It has no basis for "ought", so why apply it to Christians?)
Frikkie Klopper 2014-08-23 03:09:08 PM
Daisy. From your article it is clear that you have no love left for us christians - we discriminate against the gay community, we have no love in us,("...given how they treat the LGBT community and other races..."). If you read all these million comments on this site your sentiments are exactly echoed by most. So who is criticizing whom exactly for discriminating against a certain community by typical stereotyping? Does the sword only cut one way?