You are what you think! in the short term this may not be true but in the long term our lives are the some total of the thoughts that we entertained and allowed to influence our judgement.
Our thoughts are pictorial and audiated representation of factualized fiction that is influenced by what we see, what we hear and what we touch. it is therefore in our best interest to build on hope through associating our feeble minds with positive knowledge, positive audio visual connections as well as surround ourselves with positive people. "from the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh", these are the wise words of the young Jewish rabbi who died more than 2000 years ago and yet his positive actions continue to influence lifestyles, constitutions have been drawn inspiration from him, brutal wars have fought in the mind as well as between mankind in order to uphold his philosophies.
Change your life one thought at a time, stop daydreaming. Get up and move your thoughts from the realm of hypothesis to theory to fact. what do you really have to lose but instead gain knowledge; in failure - what not to repeat; In Success- what to improve on.
Keep around positive friends for around them you let your guard down and they influence your thinking. Read success stories and empowerment literature. it will change your outlook on life and eventually your life style.
The art of positive thinking, lies in our philosophy of life. our philosophy defines our thinking and our thinking defines our outlook to life. It is paramount to create a positive mind at all times. This defines how we react in negative circumstances as well as how we handle pressure. The most successful coaches, superstars, business men always rise from the ashes of defeat by the sheer will of their mindset.
In order to succeed, we need to change our way of thinking. You may be through a bad space and attest to failure, but look at men Like Nelson Mandela an A.N.C. struggle icon who defined the face of south African Politics right behind bars. This man had a positive mind that could not be broken even by breaking stones in the quarry.
Associate your self with positive minds, take to positive affirmations, read positive building books, look for inspirational stories, read the bible. Refuse to give up in the face of defeat.