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After nodding along in agreement with your article, it suddenly dawned on me that I could actually be classified as one of the annoying offenders you were describing. I do tend to post updates when my husband plans a date night or spoils me with a night away.
I could blame 90% of my friends who over share and fill my timeline regularly with “thank you to my (insert cutesy nickname) for my AMAZING (insert gift) – you are the BEST” But instead I’ll take responsibility for my posts and tell the truth.
My hubby has always treated me with an amazing level of love and respect. It is not something I take for granted.
Almost everyone I know has regrets regarding unsuitable exes. I am no exception. Going out with people who have zero loyalty, are unreliable and keep you guessing all the time – it isn’t fun. I can look back and be glad the experience made me grateful for what I have instead of bitter for what I didn’t receive in the past.
I didn’t expect expensive gifts or anything from my exes – just common decency and manners would have been nice. When you’ve been with a person who thinks the height of entertainment and charm is breaking wind (with eye watering results) you learn to appreciate people with manners (and who believe in breathable air). Men who speak to you with respect and listen to what you are saying instead of ogling other females in the room. Someone who keeps promises.
I’ve been with cheapskates who still managed to be the height of snobby, a one-man (wind) band, and someone who thought his time was more important than mine. If Facebook had been around years ago – well I’d have had some odd things to post.
When I met my husband I realised that the wait was well worth it. If I could, I literally would clamour onto a rooftop somewhere and shout out how special he makes me feel. However a fear of heights (and the fact I’d look insane) has stopped me from reaching for a ladder. Then Facebook arrived and it seemed normal and acceptable to post whatever it is that you are thinking/eating/feeling and of course appreciating.
If I’ve been treated to something special I will probably post a few words about my gratitude to a person who taught me that love and respect are the norm not a luxury. I don’t post often but I’ve decided that in future I’d rather spend more time telling my hubby how grateful I am instead of typing it for others to see.
