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In the forthcoming Hollywood film starring Jamie Dornan and Dakota Johnson as Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele, we’ll watch them on the big screen using these same toys and no doubt many of us will be inspired to make our own blockbusters at home.
But it is important to keep in mind that the author was not writing from personal experience and by her own admission had not tested the toys she mentions.
So before any of us get ourselves into any compromising positions re-enacting our own Anastasia/Christian love scenes, which the UK fire brigade has recently termed the 50 Shades Effect, here’s a more practical guide to using the Fifty Shades of Grey sex toys:
Ben-wa balls
The Inner Goddess Silver Ben-wa Balls, which are the first sex toys Anastasia and the readers are introduced to in Fifty Shades of Grey, would in reality be far too heavy for a beginner like her.
Balls like these are really only ideal for those who have been exercising their Kegel muscles with lighter balls for some time and are ready to go to the next level.
Ben-wa balls are designed to titillate the senses and create subtle stimulation and a feeling of warm sexiness deep inside and should be worn for about 15 minutes every day.
Any beginner wanting to try Ben-wa balls should consider first starting with the Delicious Pleasure Silicone Pleasure Balls, which are two lightly weighted free-roaming balls encased in smooth silicone.
Apply plenty of water-based lubricant to the balls before inserting them into the vagina and clench your muscles to keep them in. Slowly increase the time you wear them daily as your muscles strengthen and clamp with your vaginal muscles while pulling on the cord for greater resistance.
Anal play
In the trilogy, Christian suggests that a butt plug should be pulled out at the point of orgasm and this is good advice for anal aficionados. But for those of us that are curious, we will suggest a beginner’s guide to integrating anal play into their love making.
The anus is a sensitive erogenous zone which contains significantly more nerve endings than the vaginal wall and is just as sensitive as the clitoris when it comes to being exquisitely sensitive to touch.
Although the rectum is made up of delicate tissue, it is capable of stretching enough to accommodate the right toys which should be made of pliable silicone.
The Delicious Fullness Butt Plug and Pleasure Intensified Anal Beads have a gradually narrowed tip and a flared base to ensure that they slip easily in to the rectal area.
Before inserting any toy into the rectal area, the outer area should first be stimulated with a finger or tongue. Only ever insert very well lubricated sex toys into the anal area and only a far as is comfortable. Work together with your partner squeezing the muscles when you breathe in and relax them when you breathe out.
Each person should keep their toys to themselves and cleanse with a pH neutral cleanser like Nature Fresh Tea Tree Cleanser before and after use. Once a toy has been designated for anal use, it is a good idea to purchase an alternative toy for the vaginal area so you never use the same toy in both areas in quick succession.
And the last word comes from E.L. James "This range is what I always imagined while I was writing Fifty Shades of Grey, I’m so excited that the toys I described in the books have come to life and can now be enjoyed around the world.” But be sure to make them your own.
This article is by Lady Fay at Lady Fay's Boudoir, a safe place created by women to escape the everyday and liberate your saucy side with sexy lingerieand sex toys
