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Some say that the rise of the feminine Feminist is closer to 50’s housewife than freedom.
Some say that traditional domestic crafts such as baking and knitting have no place in the modern women’s world (because, they say, she should be spending her time protesting and setting fire to her bra rather than knitting a sweater for a man or even worse, a child!)
Some say that Feminism has been sexed up, damaging its own message when it streams down the social media feeds of millions of girls and women (and men) worldwide, and placed in a pretty package so that the world will accept and listen to her.
I say rubbish!
I am a woman who
1. Adheres to modern societal demands of hair removal, and
2. Believes her future daughter should have just as much right to position of CEO as her male colleague one day.
Which one of these best fits into the Feminist manifesto?
I am a woman who
1. Wants to have children and be at home as much as possible for them, and
2. Believes that I should be paid the same salary for the work that I do as my male counterparts in the industry, hour for hour, word for word.
Which one of these sound more ‘Feminist’ to you?
I am a woman who
1. Loves to dress up in gorgeous heels and stylish dresses, and
2. Stands in the queue every time there is a voting poll in my municipal area, region and country; believing that my vote is as important and valid as the vote of the men in the queue around me.
I am a woman who
1. Enjoys an occasional night on the town in a sexy outfit, and
2. Believes that I am the only one who has the right to my own body and sexuality.
Now which group do I belong in? Which set of the above points makes me who I am? My belief in the professional, political and social equality of the sexes makes me a Feminist. My Louboutins, baby-stroller and hairfree legs does not change the fact.
So go right ahead and call me a cupcake Feminist, or Hello Kitty Feminist or Bridget Jones Feminist – I don’t care, because all I’m hearing is the word Feminist, and that’s ok with me.
I think that sometimes people forget that we are all humans. The humanity is dropped, and the Feminism reigns supreme, not seeing the wood for all the trees.
The thing about me is – I am a cupcake human. I am sugary, dressed in crêpe (no not really, but you get my drift) and covered in sprinkles. Even my name means ‘sweetness and honey’ and I like to top off any situation I get my paws on with glitter. I love to be happy, positive, manicured and celebrate life outlandishly.
Being this way is simply doing my life the way I want to when I want to and how I want to. Isn’t that something Feminism is meant to be offering me? To allow me the right to be the boss of myself?
So to all those out there who want to scoff on my cupcake Feminism, I am not interested in getting into a school-yard debate with you over the colour of my knickers. Rather go read a book and leave me be, because guess what: You’re not the boss of me. I am.
Some might say that I can’t have it all – but the thing is, I don’t want it all. I realise that if I choose one thing I might have to give up something else. But I want the right to choose. And that’s Feminism.
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Some say that traditional domestic crafts such as baking and knitting have no place in the modern women’s world (because, they say, she should be spending her time protesting and setting fire to her bra rather than knitting a sweater for a man or even worse, a child!)
Some say that Feminism has been sexed up, damaging its own message when it streams down the social media feeds of millions of girls and women (and men) worldwide, and placed in a pretty package so that the world will accept and listen to her.
I say rubbish!
I am a woman who
1. Adheres to modern societal demands of hair removal, and
2. Believes her future daughter should have just as much right to position of CEO as her male colleague one day.
Which one of these best fits into the Feminist manifesto?
I am a woman who
1. Wants to have children and be at home as much as possible for them, and
2. Believes that I should be paid the same salary for the work that I do as my male counterparts in the industry, hour for hour, word for word.
Which one of these sound more ‘Feminist’ to you?
I am a woman who
1. Loves to dress up in gorgeous heels and stylish dresses, and
2. Stands in the queue every time there is a voting poll in my municipal area, region and country; believing that my vote is as important and valid as the vote of the men in the queue around me.
I am a woman who
1. Enjoys an occasional night on the town in a sexy outfit, and
2. Believes that I am the only one who has the right to my own body and sexuality.
Now which group do I belong in? Which set of the above points makes me who I am? My belief in the professional, political and social equality of the sexes makes me a Feminist. My Louboutins, baby-stroller and hairfree legs does not change the fact.
So go right ahead and call me a cupcake Feminist, or Hello Kitty Feminist or Bridget Jones Feminist – I don’t care, because all I’m hearing is the word Feminist, and that’s ok with me.
I think that sometimes people forget that we are all humans. The humanity is dropped, and the Feminism reigns supreme, not seeing the wood for all the trees.
The thing about me is – I am a cupcake human. I am sugary, dressed in crêpe (no not really, but you get my drift) and covered in sprinkles. Even my name means ‘sweetness and honey’ and I like to top off any situation I get my paws on with glitter. I love to be happy, positive, manicured and celebrate life outlandishly.
Being this way is simply doing my life the way I want to when I want to and how I want to. Isn’t that something Feminism is meant to be offering me? To allow me the right to be the boss of myself?
So to all those out there who want to scoff on my cupcake Feminism, I am not interested in getting into a school-yard debate with you over the colour of my knickers. Rather go read a book and leave me be, because guess what: You’re not the boss of me. I am.
Some might say that I can’t have it all – but the thing is, I don’t want it all. I realise that if I choose one thing I might have to give up something else. But I want the right to choose. And that’s Feminism.
Follow Pamela on Twitter or visit her blog.
Follow Women24 on Twitter and like us on Facebook.
