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Can we just talk about the women who are soooo into advocating for patriarchy in our society? Those women managers who will mistreat you and work on growing your male counterparts just so that they do not seem like “feminists”? Those women managers who grow while males over a young black woman so that they do not come across as “putting race forward” (whatever the hell that means)? Yes those ones.
Oh, how can I forget about the women mothers who tell their daughters that in marriage, they should hang on but the same message is not put across to the husband to be? Those women who tell you that male cheaters are much more bearable in society that female cheaters? Yes, those mothers and grandmothers that will tell you it is “normal” for men to cheat, but as soon as a woman cheats, she loses respect in society. Can we pleeease talk about those women whom if their sons in laws cheat, the family would have to meet and talk about it so that the marriage can be “fixed”, however, if their own daughters do that, they are not interested and they end up telling their daughters of how disappointed they are and that they have been greatly embarrassed? Yep, that happens.
Oh, but how can I forget about those women in our churches? You will have a priest who is a married man, cheat with at least 3 women in the same church, but all of that ends in gossips…..gossips started by those women. But I promise u, that priest will still be treated with the same amount of respect in and around the church. If you, as another congregant, dare mention that there should be some consequences for that priest, out of everything that those women will say, they will say “but we need a priest, he is a man, men do these things”. I’m talking about those women who, if a priest is divorcing due to his infidelity, and the same priest loses his title at church, should there be an event at that church, and those women will invite him to chair some church event, because he is “gifted, no matter what his situation is, he is just gifted”. But the same courtesy would never be handed to his wife; no matter how gifted she may be, spiritually? Oh, I can tell you already that they will respond and say “But she is not married to him, she’s just a lady now, not Mrs X, he is till Mr X”.
Do we understand why men are so relaxed? They can just make dreadful life decisions at the expense of other people and it would still be “bad but normal”? Do we understand why these men continue to be too comfortable with being irresponsible loosely because they know that there are no consequences? And why on earth do these men think they can just cheat on their girlfriends or wives and still easily go on to date other women, but for those girlfriends and wives, life is harder on them because they will be judged if they move on with their lives just as easily? Do we understand why some women stay on marriages being so miserable for so long, only because they will be judged by society for breaking up “God’s union” whereas they swore to be married to their husbands for life? And do we understand that as a result of that, these women then end up having affairs, whilst they are married, because they think having the guy’s surname is “easier” to deal with from society, than to not have his surname? And do we understand that whilst these women are doing these things, they are still expected to do wifely duties when their in laws are around, even if those in laws know what is going on, fully?
The reason men act like is…………yes you guessed it, THOSE women. Yeah, those ones who support them in their screw ups at the expense of other women. Initially I was confused as to why THOSE women do what they do. Thing is, those women are doing what they were told by their own parents, what they were told by the other women in their patriarchal societies they grew up in. They are the same women who were told that if a man is in a leadership role, to preserve his dignity, keep the horrible activities he gets up to, no matter how dreadful, away from the masses. This, of course should be done because, they say, it trains you on how to be a strong partner or wife.
I used to be like “screw those women, all of them”, then I realise that they are actually suffering from something……….they are not WOKE! Yes, balele (loosely translated as “They are asleep”). They have not directly been a victim of patriarchy in their workplaces. They have no idea how women workers suffer because of all of that. Those women are not strong at all, because they are easily submissive towards patriarchy. They may be up, but they are FAST ASLEEP. As a person who is awake, you cannot expect to be heard, let alone, understood by someone who is fast asleep.
Those same women seem to have issues with women who are constantly fighting patriarchy, well…….let them suffer, we have only started. If you are one of them, darling………do enjoy (not) the ride……..we are only beginning. Have a nice nap.
