‘I am physically alive but dead inside’ – mother of three children who were murdered by her ex
It was an ordinary Sunday night for the single mom and her three children, and she spent the evening playing and laughing with the kids before tucking them into bed. Little did Lucia Ndala (27) realise it would be the last night on Earth for her beloved children, Thabang (11), Amogelang (3) and sweet little Lebogang (1).
Less than 24 hours later all three children would be dead, murdered by Lucia’s ex-boyfriend, Tebogo Mojutu (29), the father of her youngest child. He then took his own life too.
Tebogo hanged the children – and the harrowing image of their dangling bodies is one that will haunt Lucia for the rest of her life. A weeping Lucia says she wishes she could turn back time.
“I would delete the part of my life where I met him. My children were my world and he knew it. He took away everything I lived for. It feels like a horror movie but it doesn’t end. He killed my children in the most brutal manner,” she told SowetanLive.
The fathers of her two older children are also distraught, she tells DRUM, and don’t know “how to handle the situation”.
“As for me, I am physically alive but dead inside. All I can do is forgive and free the spirits of my children. Having seen the scene, I have no one to be angry with. He’s gone and so are my children. I forgive him. I can’t be angry with his family, they didn’t kill my children.”
Tebogo’s brother Johannes, who was the first to arrive at the grisly scene, said his family was shattered by the deaths. “My brother never spoke about his problems. He had tried to kill himself twice before – the last time was in March when he took poison. We are devastated because we know he loved these children,” he said.
Tebogo worked as a driver transporting schoolchildren in Soshanguve north of Pretoria and Lucia’s kids were among his regular passengers, the grieving mom says. He arrived at the home Lucia shared with her children the morning of that fateful day, 27 May, to pick the kids up for school and daycare.
“I told him they weren’t going to school that day because Thabang wasn’t writing exams and the two little girls weren’t feeling well. He asked to see them anyway and I let him,” Lucia recalls.
He spent a few minutes with the children and then left.
Lucia popped out on an errand and when she returned a neighbour told her Tebogo had come back to her house and taken her children with him. “My neighbour said she was worried about the youngest one because she could see she wasn’t fully dressed and it was cold out. I called and asked him why he’d taken the kids and he said he was taking them out for pizza because they’d asked for it. He promised to return them soon.”
Lucia asked where they were going for pizza so early in the morning as most shops and restaurants open only at 9am. He assured her the children would be home shortly. That conversation was enough for Lucia to hurry to the police station to tell them he’d taken her children without her permission and to get a protection order against him.
On her way to the police station, she called him again and he said, “How would you feel if I killed myself and the children?”
“I told him I would be hurt but I knew he would never kill my children because he loved them too.
“He then said, ‘I wish I could make you feel the same pain you’re causing me when you say you no longer want to be with me’.”
Tebogo called Lucia again, demanding an answer to his chilling threat.
“I told him there was nothing I could do, I would just be hurt if I found out he’d killed my children. He said, ‘Okay, just know I’m going to kill myself with the children’.”
The worst was to come.
Tebogo handed the phone to the two older children. “Mama, I love you,” each child told her. She could hear Lebogang repeatedly calling for her in the background.
At the police station Lucia begged the cops to send a patrol van to Tebogo’s home. “While I was at the police station I had a sharp, cutting feeling in my stomach. I had a feeling he had done what he said he’d do,” she says. The police were too late.
Johannes arrived at the family home shortly before the police and found all four of them, hanged in Tebogo’s bedroom. It’s believed the kids had been poisoned first.
Lucia met Tebogo in 2016 and they clicked instantly.
“He seemed like a really good man. He was aware I had two children with two other men and he accepted my situation,” she says.
Lucia got on well with Tebogo’s family and she and her kids moved in with Tebogo and his four siblings in Block W in Soshanguve. The couple later had a child of their own, little Lebogang. Things started to sour when Tebogo began cheating on Lucia and hitting her.
“We’d argue about his affairs and he would beat me for asking questions. He’d apologise and promise to change, but that never happened,” she says.
She and her children moved out in February to take care of her sickly aunt, who had helped raise her.
“He accused me of leaving so I could cheat on him. After my aunt passed away he beat me badly and tried to strangle me. I still have marks on my neck from the incident. That’s when I decided I’d leave him because I believed he was capable of killing me. In April I called it quits for good.”
After that, Tebogo would threaten her.
“He’d say things like, ‘One day I’m going to kill you and the children’.”
Tebogo tried to commit suicide soon after Lucia’s aunt’s funeral, Johannes says.
“He took rat poison after the funeral and called Lucia to tell her what he’d done.”
Lucia called Johannes who found Tebogo and took him to hospital. He went for psychological counselling once he was discharged, Johannes says. Now his family is battling to understand Tebogo’s terrible deed.
“We have so many questions and no one to answer them. He should have asked for help instead of killing himself and these innocent children.”
Tragically, it’s way too late now.