I’m afraid my insecurities will push my partner away – what should I do?

I’m so jealous

QUESTION

I’m so in love with my woman that I get jealous all the time. I can’t help myself and I feel bad when I see her speaking to other men. Surely my jealousy is just a sign that I love her? But she doesn’t see it that way and I’m afraid I’m going to lose her. Please help.

ANSWER

She’s in a relationship with you, and as long as she doesn’t give you reason to doubt her, you shouldn’t be jealous when she talks to other men. You make it sound as if she can’t be her own person and interact with other people because only you can love her.

Being possessive and wanting to own her is not a sign of love. When you truly love someone, you let that person be themselves in the relationship and just love them for who they are and the good they bring with them. It’s not good if you feel the need to suffocate the person and not let them live their own lives.

An overly possessive nature can be dangerous and can lead to abuse of the person by the one who claims to love them so much. Guard against that happening. Talk to a professional about how you’re feeling so you can get guidance on how to deal with jealousy when it manifests.

According to Pych Central, you are showing signs of being a controlling guy. Learn to trust your partner, especially if they haven’t given you any reason not to trust them. You should not be drawing out rules for your partner as that will drive them away from the relationship.