How you handle life is in your hands

The more resistance, the more insistence...!!

Past. Willie Norris, who used to be a spiritual columnist for Express under the heading “Light on your Way”, once made a start­ling statement.

“Negative circumstances are more than positive circumstances,” he said.

How true the statement!

After pondering over the statement for a while, I started thinking about many circumstances in the past, analysing them critically.

Then I alluded to Past. Norris’ view.

Admittedly, circumstances present themselves in different forms, pending on various factors initiating them.

As we would know, some of them are due to natural factors, either changeable or non-changeable, while others are due to human beings themselves.

It therefore remains in the hands of every individual how to handle them.

Someone once said that it is not what happens to us that matters, but how we approach the problem.

Take the statement, “If you cannot change the situation, you better change yourself”.

This means that it is incumbent on someone to find his or her way out.

From his past experience, one man stated that it is more challenging to deal with man-made circumstances than with those caused by nature.

He compares this to a manager whose company, due to his negative influence on it, seems to be one whose operational principles are based on rules rather than on principles.

‘’rules – based ones ‘’ than ‘’principles–based ones.’’

Some managers can become comfortable with the state of mediocrity – leading their companies into stagnation and dysfunctionality.

utterly not growing their companies and thus lead them to dysfunctionality -becoming representatives of a mortuary that enjoys receiving and keeping the dead!

In this regard, Dale Carnegie, American writer, advises that if one does not change, he does not grow and he does not live.

Echoing this is the statement “the growth of a mana­ger determines the growth of an organisation”.

Unfortunately, some companies are led by leaders who are strongly resistant to good programmes aimed at maximising growth.

Such leaders are said to be diplomatic in attitude and approach to approving programmes advancing growth.Such leaders are famous for saying “no” without giving genuine reasons, having a dodgy attitude - inclined to postpo­ning objectives indefinitely and giving the false impression that issues will be revisited soon.

However, some companies have good and knowledge­able employees who do not easily give up on the road to achieving growth.

They are excited about progress and are fundamentally optimistic, seeing an opportunity in every problem.

They are persuasions in the real sense of it.

I am always encouraged by an incident from which I can learn a good lesson.

Such is the story of an old man who was attacked and robbed of his valuable items in the early hours of the morning while on his way to work.

After being beaten by his assailants, he was left for dead.

Regaining his consciousness, he crawled his way through the graveyard to a nearby house where he saw a flickering light.

He knocked on the door with all he had, refusing to be defeated.

Although furious at the intrusion, the owner of the house opened the door quickly.

With a blood-stained face and calloused knees, the old man was powerless, but thankful that he survived.